How to Make your Parenting much Elated Process in 2021 ?

Updated : 12 August , 2021 

The brightest journey of one's life :  Parenthood 

Some people suggest that parenting is the toughest job any person can ever have .

 

Is it really so ? 

It might seems to be a great task for those who are least prepared to begin with , because becoming a parent means our life is certainly going to bring us new babies , new experiences , new feelings along with some new understandings , new joys and new stresses and challenges as well . Becoming a parent , clearly means our lives are going to change and we must prepare ourselves for those mental and emotional changes . Not easy , not so tough though ! 

How to Raise Your Child with a Growth Mindset and a Big Heart ?

The child's arrival in the family brings along a series of wonderful experiences for each parent and opens up the doorway for humongous opportunities to feel more mature and responsible with a child , to bring a new sense of connection among the family members , to understand love and perspectives in a entirely different angle . 

A child gives parents the opportunity to learn to enjoy each new word , little step , cute expressions , in short to relive their life again , with full enthusiasm this time . It's a whole new world to experience a far more deeper and powerful love , a world to cultivate great values and passing them to another generations . Transition to parenthood brings us a series of changes and challenges to learn and have a personal growth too .

Successfully raising a child is a kind of accomplishment and has meaning in its own .

 

Our aim as a parent should always to give our child strong roots . A child is born with a loose nerve connection between brain and heart . With time and experiences it fastens together and this tie up becomes the basis of how a child is going to interact with the world . Now , we as a parent should take this responsibility to nurture that growth to provide our child with quality mindset , emotional intelligence , compassion , self-regulation and an unfiltered and growing thought process . 

How to Hold Space for Your Child's Emotions and Growth with Love? 

• Unlike other creatures , whose child does not need much care and attention to survive , everything he needs to know about life is already inbuilt and existing there within him ; human child is not born with such intelligence , he needs to be taught and groomed , else might come like any other animal . 

• Parents need to provide their child with lots of strength and stability in their body , mind , emotions and energy inspite of pouring them with bunches of gifts and surprises . This is the reason why most of the grown ups after losing something , begin to think as if they have lost their life . The moment they have these thoughts , their strength and stability to survive in any situation shatter down to a great extent . 

• Giving them every shit of the world before they actually open their mouths , demanding and complaining about it , throwing more and more material just because of the guilt we as a parent have , for not providing our children a quality of time. Only way to cover up this guilt and maintain a inner satisfaction is to bring some gift and throwing it up in their hands so that child also does not feel unwanted and uncared and this goes on ! 

• This will not help them in anyway , we need to find ways , allowing them to grow in a community atleast for few weeks from the entire year to enjoy as much as they can and rest of time we can treat them as a sensible creatures , not as pampered nonsense . 

What is Your Responsibility as a Parent ? 

• If you think , the way you're is the best or the way you take up things , situations is best , naturally you're going to aspire to make them your own clone ; making it your worst step for the coming generation . Because the next generations should not be the pre-programmed robotic devices who will act on every single click of yours . So trying to mould them in a certain way with your own typical mindset and sappy love will make their life miserable one day . 

• A child just needs a stable , pleasant atmosphere to grow . So , all you need to do is to create a joyful and loving atmosphere around him and let him be in that incubator where he can explore the world all by himself . Yes, he needs attention and care upto certain years of his life , say 6-7  then he also needs to distance himself to become his own thing , a separate individual entity .

• Of course there would be many bad influences whom he'll be encountering as the sphere of his interaction grows . You cannot always protect him from all those influences , because someday or the other he have to deal all by himself . Let him take the charge of his own life , you need to be the support system here , helping him moving ahead and maintaining the necessary stability in his life . 

• The idea of a parent to make their child somewhat more than him should not be he earning more than him . This is very unfortunate . The idea is , if you're this much intelligent then they should be more intelligent than you , if you're this much balanced then they should be far more balanced than you , if your life is this rich , their life must be lot more richer than yours . Richness of the life should never ever be a contribution from what you have .

• Who we actually are , should always come from within . Your everyday utility should not ever define your existence as an entity . This is the reason for the daily struggles , that we are unhappy , as the child is not shaping according to our mindset . 

• Look up at yourself first and observe your actions because children are picking them up rapidly and exaggerating them unconsciously . You need not to raise yourself to a certain level set by the society , just to a level you start liking your new, better version . Now, this doesn't mean you'll be eligible for a good parent but will definitely create the necessary ambiance which forms the largest part of your parenthood . 

Of course you'll provide them opportunity you have access to. You are always best at doing this . 

But most importantly , the question arises what kind of human race are you raising ? 

So, what kind of human being are you , is extremely important to answer this question . It plays very decisive role while raising children . 

So, while preparing for the parenting , you need to understand that now you need transformations at every other stage , because another life is also coming into existence and that life is also having a great impact from the influence you're providing .  

Raise Yourself First !

If you yourself do not like the way you're , one more should not go that way . Isn't it ? 

Just remember children are only coming through you , not from you . You're nowhere the source they're coming into an existence. Do not consider them as your future investment or try making them dependent on you in some way or the other . Try liberating them . Now, this is very hard for most of the parents because that's is the only place where they get to boss around , they have a committed audience in form of their children , so they panic when they see this commitment losing after the child enters his teen . 

What does a Child really need ? 

• What they actually need is not a boss walking around , but some good company . We probably forget that the only qualification we have over them is , we came here few years earlier than them, to tell them what to do and what not . But another thing here is , if you'll not tell them then someone else's unqualified advice will surely going to happen . So, you just have to guard them against those . 

• But if you're telling him to obey you and not to follow outsider's advice , this won't work for a longer period of time . At this phase of life , your advices will always seem non sense to him and theirs fascinating ones. You have to search appropriate way out for this . You liberate him and try focusing on building a strong connection with him instead of preaching them rules of life , and you'll find that very soon he is going to realize that his intelligence and awareness is not sufficient enough , and that he needs help , he'll approach you for the advice , in that case you can tell him what you feel is right .

 

• Do not entangle his intelligence by being identifying to this or that . Let him ask questions based on his own curiosity . If you anyway put him through necessary basis of the society , to give him a healthy body and active intelligence then of course , with the help of best level of education what you can afford , you can bring him up ; but without the sense of any identity . 

• So , Let him exercise his own intelligence that he has willingly become open to each and everything without being attached to nothing ; he will certainly make the best possible out of his life . He'll grow to his maximum potential . Of course ! he will interact with the world in a certain way , depending upon various different factors like the kind of company he's having , what situations he gets into etc etc . 

Where will he end up ?  

Who knows !   These things you cannot control. But if you create an atmosphere of love, care, openness and when he's not identified with anything , naturally there's no sense of prejudice and generally he does well , but there's no guarantee to it because also there're other external factors attached to it . 

Did you do your best or not is all that matters in life ! 

The most beautiful job in this universe is to raise human consciousness and capabilities to the ultimate level possible ! 

I hope it would help you somewhere . Thanks for taking out your time . See you there in the next one !