The often misapprehend realities and restrains in Adoption
Updated : 9 May , 2021
When it comes to an unplanned pregnancy or occurance of some tragedious event , the most common choices for Indian people are abortions or orphanages.
But when we talk about infertility or parenting , most of us choose high tech clinic facilities , donated gamete concepts and more ; can also either get ready to be parenting an only child , considering them the only option .
But there is an another option , one that is often left out of the conversation while discussing the reproductive procedures and rights - Adoption .
Child adoption in the face of reproduction continues to remain an underestimated aspect of contemporary Indian reality .
The bottom line is ?
Adoption always remains an unpopular course of action.
Why is so that adoption not seen as an accomplishable option ?
One of the primary reason is the misunderstanding about adoption in our culture and a kind of dearth in awareness about the way adoption works and the whole procedure involved in it .
You know, there is big misconception about what adoption actually is ? It's simply not what we see on the news or in movies - way different .
If we shed some light on the current state of adoption practices of India , you'll be shocked to see that people facing infertility , they're favoring secret gamete donation as a means to bypass this malady rather than adopting the option of adoption.
Fit and fine Couples adopting a child from the street ?
When people who are misfit to reproduce are choosing to blow their money on clinically assisted treatments to salvage their incapabilities just because they want to obscure a "public and visible" violation of a socially and culturally priced ideal that views an intimate connection between the married bodies and the progeny . They forever tryna conceal and subsume the otherwise publically vocal , visible fact that relates their incapabilities , which now they consider gonna hide under the conspiracy of silence.
You know , there're countless number of fertility clinics established in India , but what we actually need here is a infertility bomb :-)
So, it's a sheer waste of time to think that fit and fine couples will choose adoption as an option against parenting biologically.
You know there are so many beautiful souls in form of orphan children , existing in every street of India . Nonetheless will give the steep and daunting climb to adopt a child from there and bring them home .
One could very easily include child adoption in their speech but it's quite another thing to actually tell your family and friends that I'm gonna adopt neither because there's some kinda lack of want to have more children nor there's a want to provide children with a home , I simply wanna do this because there are too many adorable babies in the world without parents and a home , I wanna parent the child who needs and deserves to be parented.
Are we really losing the very essence of motherhood in this perseverance ?
Many of you will be wondering if we continue to do so then isn't there a scope for losing that essence of motherhood which we experience when we're expecting ?
Mother doesn't become a mother when she biologically delivers you , she is so because in various ways she shows you that she's holding you as a part of herself . Biological delivery didn't make any woman a mother , it's because of the level of inclusiveness that she had displayed in her life , it's all because of that miraculous conduct that she is being privileged to be called as a God's most beautiful creation - a Mother . So , that willingness to include somebody and not because of the biological capability to get pregnant and deliver, makes her a mother .
You can also listen to this podcast to get more idea of it .
Only a question of willingness ?
The problem is , for most people their willingness is coming in the form of installments . There are layers of resistance while we're accepting something in our life . That's our nature.
Biology will bind you only to a certain point beyond that there is human intelligence , emotion , consciousness . That inclusiveness makes you feel like two bodies and one soul .
Isn't it possible that two biologically connected people could intensely hate each other?
Possible . Isn't it ? But then also people will fall back on biology only , because for them blood is everything which is functioning , their brain is yet to function.
Biological connections are undoubtedly important , but somewhere with every passing time we have over exaggerated it . We're now on the way to have some dumbest of ideas like the creation is human centric and the whole planet , whole ecosystem and this whole universe is made just to serve the humanity. Ironical to this , we are merely a consequence of the creation .
Everyone here wants to leave their footprints and reproduction largely a foot trend . It's not that reproduction is bad but the thing which made us very much different from all other creatures is the consciousness otherwise there won't be any difference between us and any of them. So, like all other things , reproduction should also happen consciously .
Sometimes concept of adoption may be avoided due to the long hectic legal procedure required for doing it but still it's a very beautiful thing to be part of .
There are people who are working to change this stigma around adoption but still there's lot more to be done . We must have some talk over this topic with parents , specially women . It should be part of the pregnancy options because it is important to put it on equal footing with parenting .
We seriously need to get away from the idea that if you choose it , you'll not remain a fit parent anymore . Because it's not true !
Hope it helped you somewhere :-)
See you there in the next one !
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